Anonymous letter to my wife of nearly 21 years... This is getting untenable. Don't think I can be your husband for another 20 years. Want to be your friend but don't think I can be the husband you want. Here's why... YOU DON'T RESPECT ME... YOU DON'T APPRECIATE ME... YOU DON'T TRUST ME... YOU GIVE ME ANXIETY WITH YOUR ANXIETY... YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO CONTROL... WE BOTH DRINK TOO MUCH... I'VE LOST MYSELF IN THIS MARRIAGE...